<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Deborah Edwards Coaching Ltd]]></title><description><![CDATA[I offer a reflective style of coaching that leads to greater long term results.]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2026 00:56:39 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Recognising the New You — How Personal Growth Changes Who We Are]]></title><description><![CDATA[Something interesting happens when people do real inner work. They change. And then they don't quite recognise themselves — and aren't sure whether to feel proud or unsettled. There's a particular kind of disorientation that comes with genuine growth. The patterns you used to default to no longer feel automatic. The things that once seemed obviously right — certain relationships, ways of working, ways of responding — start to feel like a misfit. And you can't always go back to who you were...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/recognising-the-new-you-how-personal-growth-changes-who-we-are</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82fa8c1c672fb673ff79e</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:32:24 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why We Shake the Ladder — Understanding Resistance to Others' Success]]></title><description><![CDATA[You know the phrase "pulling up the ladder" — the idea that once someone reaches a place of success or security, they make it harder for others to follow? There's a related phenomenon I think about often, and it's slightly different: what I call "shaking the ladder" while someone else is still climbing it. It's the subtle undermining. The well-timed comment that plants doubt. The "I don't know if you're ready for that." The lukewarm support when someone you know is doing something brave. The...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/why-we-shake-the-ladder-understanding-resistance-to-others-success</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82fa8c1c672fb673ff79f</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:32:24 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Building Emotional Resilience — What It Really Means and How to Grow It]]></title><description><![CDATA[Resilience is one of those words that gets used so often it's started to lose its shape. It gets conflated with toughness — with not feeling things, not needing support, bouncing back quickly and without complaint. And that version of resilience, I'd argue, is not something worth building. Real emotional resilience is something quite different. And it's available to all of us. What Resilience Actually Is Emotional resilience is the capacity to experience difficulty — real difficulty, grief,...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/building-emotional-resilience-what-it-really-means-and-how-to-grow-it</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82fa8c1c672fb673ff79c</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:32:24 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Quiet Power of Choice (And Why You Have More Than You Think)]]></title><description><![CDATA[There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from feeling like life is happening to you rather than with you. Like you're being carried along by a current you didn't choose, doing what's expected, responding to what lands in your inbox, and wondering when things might feel different. If any of that resonates, I want to share something that I come back to again and again in my work with clients: the quiet, consistent power of choice. Choice Is Always Available One of the beliefs that...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/the-quiet-power-of-choice-and-why-you-have-more-than-you-think</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82fa8c1c672fb673ff79d</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:32:24 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Simple Steps to Improve Your Wellbeing (That You Can Start Today)]]></title><description><![CDATA[The internet is awash with wellbeing advice. Morning routines that begin at 5am. Cold showers and ice baths. Extensive supplement protocols. Meditation apps with hundreds of hours of content. It can feel like you need to transform your entire life before you're allowed to feel better. I want to offer a different perspective: the most powerful wellbeing practices are often the simplest. And the best place to start is wherever you are, with whatever you have, right now. Start With the Basics...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/simple-steps-to-improve-your-wellbeing-that-you-can-start-today</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82fa8c1c672fb673ff79b</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:32:24 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Way You Speak to Yourself Matters More Than You Think]]></title><description><![CDATA[If someone followed you around all day and said to you everything you say to yourself in your own head, would you keep them in your life? For most of us, the honest answer is no. We would not tolerate from another person the relentless commentary, the harsh judgements, the catastrophising, and the quiet put-downs that we deliver to ourselves without even noticing. The Inner Critic We all have an inner critic. That voice that says "you're going to mess this up", "who do you think you are?",...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/the-way-you-speak-to-yourself-matters-more-than-you-think</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82f36657220a88275b7cf</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:30:30 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Is It So Hard to Put Yourself First?]]></title><description><![CDATA[It's one of the most common things I hear from clients: "I know I should look after myself better, but I just can't seem to make it happen." And when we dig into it, it usually isn't a time or energy problem. It's a permission problem. Somewhere along the line, many of us internalised the message that putting others first is virtuous, and putting ourselves first is selfish. So we deprioritise our own needs — not reluctantly, but as if it's the right and morally correct thing to do. Where Did...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/why-is-it-so-hard-to-put-yourself-first</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82f36657220a88275b7d1</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:30:30 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Your Emotions Aren't the Problem (And What to Do Instead)]]></title><description><![CDATA[One of the most common things I hear from clients — often in the first session — is some version of this: "I just need to stop being so emotional." And I completely understand why they say it. Emotions can feel overwhelming. They can arrive at inconvenient moments, make us do things we regret, or seem completely out of proportion to what's actually happening. Of course we'd want to turn them down. But here's what I want to gently challenge: your emotions are not the problem. What Emotions...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/why-your-emotions-aren-t-the-problem-and-what-to-do-instead</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82f36657220a88275b7d2</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:30:30 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Little Permission to Slow Down (And Why You Need It)]]></title><description><![CDATA[I want to give you something today that you might not have given yourself in a while: permission to slow down. Not permission to stop. Not permission to give up. Just permission to ease back, take a breath, and remember that you are a human being — not a human doing. The Cult of Busy We live in a culture that has elevated busyness to a virtue. "How are you?" "Oh, manic!" says almost everyone, almost automatically. We wear busy as a badge of importance. And somewhere along the way, rest...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/a-little-permission-to-slow-down-and-why-you-need-it</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82f36657220a88275b7ce</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:30:30 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How to Deal with Difficult People Without Losing Yourself]]></title><description><![CDATA[Most of us have at least one. A person in our life who leaves us feeling drained, unsettled, or quietly furious every time we interact with them. The difficult person. Maybe it's a colleague who always seems to undermine your ideas. A family member who knows exactly which buttons to press. A friend who makes everything about themselves. Or someone who blows hot and cold in a way that keeps you constantly off-balance. First, a Reframe Before we talk about what to do, I want to offer something...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/how-to-deal-with-difficult-people-without-losing-yourself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82f36657220a88275b7d0</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:30:30 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Is Everyone Really Having a Better Summer Than You?]]></title><description><![CDATA[It's a curious phenomenon, summer. On paper, it's the season of ease and joy — longer days, lighter evenings, holidays and sunshine. And yet, for many people, it quietly becomes the season of comparison. Of scrolling through images of other people's perfect beaches and spontaneous adventures, and feeling... lacking. If you've ever put your phone down in August feeling somehow worse about your own life than when you picked it up, you are not alone. Not even slightly. Why Summer Amplifies...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/is-everyone-really-having-a-better-summer-than-you</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82ec2c1c672fb673ff53d</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:28:34 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Unspoken Games We Play — and How to Step Off the Board]]></title><description><![CDATA[There are conversations happening in every relationship that are never actually spoken aloud. Dynamics that play out across offices, families, friendships, and partnerships — often completely below the surface of conscious awareness. We don't choose to play these games. We slip into them. And they cost us. They cost us energy, authenticity, and peace of mind. What Are Unspoken Social Games? You might recognise some of these patterns: the person who always plays the martyr, sacrificing...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/the-unspoken-games-we-play-and-how-to-step-off-the-board</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82ec2c1c672fb673ff53e</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:28:34 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[There's More Than One Way to Journal (Finding the Style That Works for You)]]></title><description><![CDATA[When I mention journalling, I can almost see some people mentally check out. "I tried it once, couldn't stick to it." "I don't know what to write." "It feels self-indulgent." "I'm not that kind of person." I hear this a lot. And I want to gently push back — because the version of journalling most people imagine (a diary, written every morning, full of feelings) is just one tiny corner of what journalling actually is. Journalling Is Not One-Size-Fits-All One of the most important things I...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/there-s-more-than-one-way-to-journal-finding-the-style-that-works-for-you</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82ec2c1c672fb673ff53c</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:28:34 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How to Stop Negative Thought Spirals (Taking Your Mind to Court)]]></title><description><![CDATA[We all have that inner voice. The one that pipes up at 2am, replays the awkward thing you said three years ago, or convinces you that everything is about to go wrong. And once it starts, it can feel almost impossible to switch it off. Negative thought spirals are one of the most common things I work on with clients. They're exhausting, they distort our sense of reality, and over time they can quietly erode our confidence and wellbeing. But here's the thing — they are not the truth. They're...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/how-to-stop-negative-thought-spirals-taking-your-mind-to-court</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82ec2c1c672fb673ff53f</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:28:34 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Where Is Your Energy Really Going? How to Stop the Draining Thought Loop]]></title><description><![CDATA[Have you ever reached the end of a day feeling utterly exhausted — and yet you can't quite put your finger on what you actually did? You were busy. You were thinking. But the thinking didn't feel productive. It felt... circular. This is one of the quietest forms of energy drain there is. And most of us don't even notice it's happening until we're running on empty. The Energy We Don't Account For We're very good at tracking our physical energy — sleep, food, exercise. But we rarely account for...]]></description><link>https://www.deborahedwardscoaching.co.uk/post/where-is-your-energy-really-going-how-to-stop-the-draining-thought-loop</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa82ec2c1c672fb673ff53b</guid><pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2026 17:28:34 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>